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2 weeks agoPriest NonSequitur OCC Consular
So I posted this on FB yesterday. There was a debate about something happening between a couple of my friends, and instead of just discussing the issue, my friend's husband devolved the discussion to persecution and 'mansplaining.' It irks me when a person is presented with an argument and instead of addressing the concern, they go strait to victim signaling. So I wrote this:
There is a difference between not agreeing with a person on a matter and:
1. hating them
2. believing they are worth less because of their position
3. believing they are not entitled to their opinion/belief
4. 'judging' them
5. advocating for the discrimination of the person.
6. believing that it is okay to silence them because their view disagrees (sometimes foundationally) with yours.
Also, there is a difference between agreeing with a person on a matter and:
1. agreeing unconditionally with any other stance they have
2. believing they are 'moral' because of their stance on ONE issue
3. believing that they are immune from criticism
4. holding anyone who disagrees with them as 'the enemy'
Other miscellaneous rules:
1. having an opinion does not mean you're right
2. speaking in a wind tunnel only ensures you hear yourself speak
3. just because you have been hurt...doesn't mean you're right
4. sometimes truth is painful
5. not everything is acceptable
6. not everything is moral
7. not everything is right
8. just because something is wrong does not mean it is illegal
9. just because something is wrong does not mean there should not be freedom of choice
10. just because you don't like it does not mean someone else doesn't have the right to disagree with you (i.e...if you hate Country music, others can tell you how much they love it and your position doesn't necessarily negate theirs.)
11. Not all opposing perspectives carry the same moral weight or validity from a truth perspective. 12. just because a lot of people believe something doesn't make it true
13. the word "science" can be manipulated. When someone claims "science," check the source
I got a little flack on 13. I see the word science used to 'prove' a point, but that 'science' is taken out of context, or is being used in a misleading way. Is coffee good or bad for you? You can find a 'science' answer on both sides of that question. People use science, which I consider to include your typical scientific disciplines like physical, chemical, biological, but I'd also include mathematical (like statistics) and psychological studies as well (I know psychological falls mainly under biological, but I think that it is truly a distinct creature that needs to be subdivided out and spoken on. I've seen people take 'studies' and 'scientific opinions' and use them as proof positive that a position is not debatable. People use 'science' dogmatically as a way to shut down an argument. The problem is that often times people reduce the point of the study to an absolute; or fail to apply it to the entire problem.
So I guess that I may want to add the following sentiments:
14. Facts outside of their context are not facts, they are half-truths
15. Data can be manipulated, misinterpreted, misunderstood, and mistaken
16. Issues are always, paradoxically both more complex and less complex than they initially seem. Stay curious.
17. When you come to a point where you realize you're wrong...admit it.
18. A position can be the right position, but for the wrong reasons.
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Can I ask a question here? I've been scouring the internet for several months trying to determine if there was going to be a port for wii sports (specifically for the bowling) on the Switch. My 5 year old daughter LOVES bowling, and we want to upgrade to the switch, but I don't want to spend a lot of money if it won't be possible. Also, how about the digital purchases on the wii? Will those be playable on the switch yet?
I don't know what it is about Nintendo, but good information is hard to find.
3 weeks agoPriest NonSequitur OCC Consular
Church rant incoming. If you don't know me, I am an unapologetic Christian who happens to also like gaming and teenage humor. I try to always live my life that is both open and pleasing to God. I fail a lot, but I don't stop trying. Below are some thoughts that I had after the service on Sunday.
I live in Memphis, TN.
If there is one thing most people know about Memphis, it is the racial division. There is an embarrassment in the Southern Baptist Convention that the split between the American Baptists and the Southern Baptists were split because of the Civil War. We have a long past of racism being an undertone. Despite the fact that the Convention has come out numerous times to specifically confess this sin and ask for repentance publicly going so far as to unanimously affirm through vote a statement that clearly condemned the past...we still have the public perception of being majority white, and unchanging.
This past Sunday we had an African American pastor stand at our pulpit and preach. It was one of the most heart-rending sermons I have ever heard, and challenged my priorities of preference and style. He reminded us in an hour of what our mission should actually be, but the very act of him speaking to us, especially after what has gone on in my Church over the last eight months gave me a totally new perspective.
Up to this point, we have been a distinctly 'white' church. This doesn't mean that we don't have color spread around, but all the staff is white. Likewise, we have a Hispanic and Korean ministry, but they stick to their own sides of the building and we rarely interact with each other. These 'pockets' of sorted diversity are troublesome because they allow us to believe that we are truly integrated...when in fact we are still stratified racially. There isn't any meanness to it...it's just how we organically divide, oil in water.
As I sat there and listened to the sermon, I thought that I had been thinking along lines that I had never realized existed. I had always, in my mind's eye, had a pastor that was white. Honestly, I don't think it was a race thing but rather the fact that until I left for college my dad had always been the pastor, and all pastors in my mind's eye look like my dad. But at this moment, I had this imaginative look at what our Church would look like with a multi-ethnic staff. It was beautiful.
I wonder if this is what God is actually doing. We started with 11 staff members, all male, all white in January. We now have four. Is it possible that God has broken us down to rebuild us to look more like our community? Is it possible that God has made a way to teach us how TRUE diversity looks? If only we could be so bold! I am praying that this happens.
My Church has been wrapped up in trying to maintain its identity. We have tried to not rock the boat, and have tried to bail the water that has come over the rail. We have lost our purpose, which is to be a shining light on a hill. I know this doesn't make sense to people who haven't gone to Church, or don't know the language we use, so I'll spell it out here.
Christians believe that there is a literal God who literally created the world (method debatable) and ultimately created Man (again method debatable.) Man is a reflection of God on earth, and was given the gift of 'being' and God created Man to worship God and be an object of God's affection. Man sinned against God by disobedience, and as such created a separation between him and God that is impassable. Lemme explain that: God is perfect (righteous) and man cannot be in his presence because Man is not. Sin is a violation of God's law, and the punishment is death. This means that God and Man can never have the relationship they had prior to sin...unless there is a bridge. Jesus (who is also God) was born of a virgin (he is also man) walked the Earth for 33 years, sinless until he died on the Cross as a sacrifice in our place...taking on the sin in our lives and covering us with his perfectness. What this means is that the debt that we have through sin is paid on the Cross by Jesus...and not by us.
Jesus didn't stay dead; he rose from the grave three days later, walked the earth for a short time, and then ascended to heaven, where he sits at the right hand of God interceding for us. The purpose of that is this: If we repent of our sins and ask forgiveness, and then ask Jesus to lead us in our future choices, all the bad stuff we have ever done, all the sin...no longer matters eternally. We are clean. This doesn't mean that there aren't still consequences for our actions; if you have murdered a person, you don't get to ignore your sentence. But when you die, God has already judged you clean because Jesus took your sin to the grave already.
So when Christians 'proselytize' you, they're not looking for a convert to get money from; they believe that if you become a Christian, that you will be seen as righteous by God. They believe that there is no other way to be righteous (you can't earn your way to heaven.) All men are sinful (no one is a good enough person.) and the debt has already been paid. That is the purpose...not finding songs that don't offend church goers...but coming to places like RT and letting y'all know that God loves you, I love you, and this is a way to find a lot of peace.
I hope that people I deal with on a day to day basis, both here and IRL, see this in me; understand that I really do care for the whole lot of you, and I am consistent in thought.
1 month agoPriest NonSequitur OCC Consular
I've been thinking about this for some time. There was a movement that started when I was in school that emphasized the importance of positive reinforcement and self-esteem building. Simply put, it stated that it was important for an individual to feel valued. This has changed the language that we have used over the past few decades to reduce negatives (like failure) and increases ambiguous double-speak (opportunities.) So, instead of saying, "This assignment was a failure," instead you say, "This assignment was completed amidst challenges and has presented us with several opportunities." Whether pass or fail, it is more important to be positive.
It's because it doesn't feel good to fail. It isn't nice to learn that we don't line up. It isn't fun. I see where the idea comes from: You don't want failure to become a barrier to future success; but I feel like this is not the lesson that has been learned. I feel like the lesson is, instead, I feel like people have learned that how they FEEL about things are other people's responsibility. It doesn't matter if you pass or fail, but it is my responsibility to make you feel good about the end result. This is at the heart of the issue by where people make the argument that "I just want you to support me in X" where X is what the other person disagrees with. People don't want to hear your opinion...they want you to acknowledge their opinion in your mouth, and they want you to validate their position. They can't feel good if you don't make them feel good...and it doesn't actually matter what you think.
So I'm here to tell you right now: You are not special. You are not different. You are not unique. We are the same in our individuality. The story does not revolve around you, and the narrative is not centered on your life. Everyone you meet, each individual person whether you acknowledge them or not is on the exact same linear path through life. They have individual hopes and dreams, they work and create things, and most of this stuff never matters to your life...and yet it has just as much value as the things you do.
Never allow yourself to think you are special. Never allow yourself to think you are gifted. Never allow yourself to think that you deserve the approval of others, or that others have an obligation to validate you. Your world isn't a PC vs. NPC world...everyone is a PC.
1 month agoPriest NonSequitur OCC Consular
Thank you to everyone who commented yesterday.
The reason I asked the question is that I believe that it is important to know how other people judge you. Often times we hear the modern adage "Don't worry about what other's think; just be yourself." I think that some people use this concept as a proof to do whatever they want to do while ignoring how their behavior/attitude speaks about their character to the people that surround them.
I submit to you that it is very important what people "THINK" about you because it reflects the type of shadow you cast. It's not that you pander or placate to the whims of others, or you let their perspective define you; but you should absolutely care what they think of you, how the value what you say because it is the only way to see the truth of yourself. I always want to make sure that people perceive me as I am, and I want to make sure I am who I want to be. If I am perceived as different than I want to be...then I am doing something wrong. I want to always be an open and honest, legitimate person. This doesn't mean that I'll always agree with or fit in with a group, but at the end of the day I want people to know who I am.
What does this mean to you? Do you care what people think? Are you aware of what type of shadow you cast on those around you?
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What can we say about Dear Leader Matt? He is as wise as he is smart. He is as tall as he is high. His girth is...well, on a need to know basis. For far too long at the OCC we have neglected our solemn duty to expound on the accolades and merits of the Dearest of Dear Leaders: our very own DLM. DLM puts the "I" in wise. DLM can put his pants on both legs at a time. DLM tugs on Superman's cape. DLM never has to brush his teeth because his gums fight gingivitis naturally. The sun never sets until DLM has given it permission to. DLM plays 5D Chess.
There are many other stories and legends of DLM, but I am not worthy to know them all. If you have heard stories; please post them in the thread below so we may create the tome of tomes: The Tome of Dear Leader Matt.
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I would help you at no charge bud. BTW, King of the Road is one of my favorite songs. My family has always been musically inclined, and my Dad used to sing Roger Miller during road trips. Obviously quite different than Verdi stylistically, but hey, that's not a problem.